Emotions Come From Thoughts » mental http://healingforyouonline.com Learn How to be Happy, Joyous and Free Mon, 19 Jul 2010 14:19:03 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 en hourly 1 My Squidoo Lenses http://healingforyouonline.com/2009/02/my-squidoo-lenses-2-2/ http://healingforyouonline.com/2009/02/my-squidoo-lenses-2-2/#comments Thu, 19 Feb 2009 07:37:52 +0000 admin http://healingforyouonline.com/?p=538 Excerpt from my “Why I Needed Squidoo”:

I don’t know if I was born for Squidoo or Squidoo was made for me. I do know that I have found my favorite vehicle–a place to practice target marketing. I believe that everyone is in sales. By that I mean we are each trying to get our personal agenda met every day. So how do you make sales easy? Find your target market and people buy from you because you are providing them a service to buy what they want. I began my main blog, kathyberman.com (Changemaker: Reinventing Yourself), in November, 2004. After writing daily for 10-12 hours for over 2 years, I came to believe that the blog had too much information. I had decided during the first few months of blogging that I didn’t have the time to write about all I’ve learned in thirty years of recovery and answer comments.

Knowing that I would be in for a long, lonely road without comments didn’t deter me from the decision to exclude comments. I have always posted my email address and posted several times about new directions the blog was entering. Of course, my choice brought me no traffic. Although I have been consistently and continually online for over two years, I have no traffic. I read a lot of blogs that have high readership audiences and have never regretted my choice.

My Squidoo Published Lenses:

Squidoo Lens Page

http://www.squidoo.com/cmlens/

About Change

Do You Need a Life Change?

http://www.squidoo.com/changelife/

You Can Help Change the World

http://www.squidoo.com/changeworld/

How You Can Change Your Stress Level

http://www.squidoo.com/changestress/

About Changemaker

Use Changemaker to Start Your Own Groups

http://www.squidoo.com/changemaker/

Use Changemaker Test to Help Others

http://www.squidoo.com/changemakertest/

Changemaker Favorite Prayers

http://www.squidoo.com/cmprayer/

Helping Others With Changemaker Headquarters

http://www.squidoo.com/groups/changemaker

About Body, Mind and Soul

Mind, Body and Soul: Physical Healing

http://www.squidoo.com/physicalhealing/

Mind, Body and Soul: Emotional Healing

http://www.squidoo.com/emotionalfitness/

Mind, Body and Soul: Mental Healing

http://www.squidoo.com/mentalhealing/

About Diet

Are You Running Out of Energy?

http://www.squidoo.com/highenergydiet/

About Motivation

Goals are Dreams With a Deadline

http://www.squidoo.com/yourtrueself/

About Recovery

ACOA, Codependency and My Inner Child

http://www.squidoo.com/myinnerchild/

Recovery is a Return to Sanity

http://www.squidoo.com/twelvesteps/

About Spirituality

Coming Home to God

http://www.squidoo.com/spiritualpractices/

Changemaker Favorite Prayers

http://www.squidoo.com/cmprayer

About Squidoo

Why I Needed Squidoo

http://www.squidoo.com/lovesquidoo/

My Hobbies

My Favorite Photo Artists

http://www.squidoo.com/favphotoartists/

About the Author

A Sampler of My Life

http://www.squidoo.com/kathy/

]]> http://healingforyouonline.com/2009/02/my-squidoo-lenses-2-2/feed/ 1 The Changemaker Difference http://healingforyouonline.com/2006/11/the-changemaker-difference/ http://healingforyouonline.com/2006/11/the-changemaker-difference/#comments Thu, 09 Nov 2006 11:56:56 +0000 newyou http://newyou.wordpress.com/2006/11/09/the-changemaker-difference/ Addiction treatment by the medical model means that an addict is “sick” and that someone else knows how to get that addict “well”. In reality, each person has a part of themselves that is perfect and was given to them at birth.

The basic problem with the medical model of addiction recovery is that the medical field calls someone “well” by sending them to take classes about symptoms and this determines the level of “help” that the “well” person will be able to give.

The reality of any emotional/mental help is that the healer can’t help beyond his/her level of recovery. We are all wounded healers but growth only happens after surrender to the need for recovery.

What other field of medicine focuses mainly or only on the symptoms? I mean, where is the cure? Certainly a label can help by identifying what information is needed to lead to a cure. But how does telling someone that they are in denial help that person to understand that their thinking is faulty?

Denial is not about lying but about someone not knowing the truth. Isn’t it more helpful to say that an addict is someone using a learned pattern of behavior to deal with uncomfortable feelings? If there are problems because of the addiction, then the learned pattern has to be given up and a new pattern of behavior has to be chosen for the energy used to be a positive for the addict.

In other words, some of the main issues in addiction treatment are maturity issues. The age at which a person started drinking, using, eating, buying, being overpowering to others, using sex, etc. is the emotional age he/she still is. If he/she started at age 15, which is pretty normal, then he/she is age 14 emotionally.

So recovery is generally about growing up. Another main issue of why people are addictive is to continue to live life in their head or in their imagination. No one knows reality–we only have a perception of reality.

As the hero in 10 Million Ways to Die says, “I never knew that I lived in a world that I hadn’t created.” That is why the addict experiences such anger at having to give up the addiction. The addict believes that his/her using only affects him/her and is no one else’s business. In reality, the addiction is affecting everyone in the addict’s life.

In the self-discovery model of group healing, everyone in the group is a student. The sharing of power in relationships defines the health of the relationship. No hierarchy is needed when people enter groups to help each other. The leadership of the group can be shared by all on a rotation basis.

The group members in the self-discovery group must agree to follow guidelines that the group chooses. The main goal of the group should be short-term with the idea of splitting up to form new groups. Some people may choose to recycle–repeat the same group–before branching out to their own group. After 2-3 times recycling, the other group members may help with the formation of new group to a group member who needs more support.

The Mental Health Institute claims 20% of the population suffers from mental illness. These people generally can benefit from mental health counseling. In America, with all our wealth, many of these poor souls wander our streets as the homeless. They have no medical insurance so mental health care is a sometime thing. Since most of the population isn’t mentally ill, education groups can be a great source of comfort and growth for those not needing therapy.

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